Gender Roles and the Family

By Titus Connor

Recently, I have been captivated by the idea of crafting oneself into a powerful creature capable of taking on the world. Physically, mentally, and through every other metric. I am fully convinced that this idea serves as a positive for all men. That every male should try to improve themselves in every way possible. Yet I’m not entirely sure that this notion is the same for women. 

My original reasoning was that every person has a moral obligation to do the best they can. Because they are given only one life, and it would be immoral to not use it to the fullest. From personal experience, the men that I have shared this message with have received it and it has changed their lives for the better. The women however, seem to strongly disagree with this on its most extreme level. I believe that is because men and women's different innate values and duties in life. 

Everyone has a desire for a family in some sense. It is clear that the large majority of the world is striving toward that goal. But I think there are differences for men and women to increase their chances of having the family they want. Firstly, one of the primary reasons that men take the idea of molding themselves into their perfect image more positively, is because they subconsciously know that women are the ones who choose their mates, not the other way around. And they obviously want the best woman to choose them, therefore they make themselves as attractive as possible. Also, I think that once men have established a family and have other human beings depending on them, the best way to support and provide for them compared to other men is to be “more powerful creature” than those other men. This means having a higher paying job, being in physical shape, mentally quick and other things. Which are all characteristics that most men would consider a perfect version of themselves having.

Women on the other hand subconsciously realize that their primary duty is not to create the most perfect version of themselves. Their calling is more sacrificial, it is to create the best life possible for their children. This means that women are not called to a perfection of strength and power, but one of care and generosity. Because that is what children require, without that they become undeveloped, cruel, and have all sorts of problems. So I should have never expected women to want to create the most impressive and powerful version of themselves. Because that does not ultimately achieve what their highest calling is, to bring about the next generation.

To be more clear, bringing about the next generation is also what a man's highest calling is, but as stated earlier, men achieve that in a different way. To properly raise children, it requires both a strong father and a caring mother. The mother takes care of the children throughout infancy and early life, while the father protects and provides (Which he is only capable of because in his life he turned himself into a “controlled monster” that is capable of providing). Both of these forces action together create the best chance for success for their children. This fact is supported by evolution, religion, and pretty much everything in between. 

A core problem with society is that we have flipped these gender roles on their head. Men are no longer called to be powerful, have good careers, and be strong, but women are. Women are no longer called to be caring, gentle and nurturing, yet men are. This has led to a disappointing generation of weak men, “Boss Bitch” females, and very few nuclear families. As mentioned previously, I have seen the immediate distaste that non-leftist-indoctrinated have against becoming powerful independent creatures. The only reason for this that I see is that it is biologically put in them. I have also seen this with young men my age, a desire to become great and powerful, and then use that power for good. So not only are gender roles optimal for the success of future generations, but they are natural and built into us and I believe that it is ultimately unhealthy to go against them. 

The Molting Mind

By Trent Connor